Why should I feel bad for needing to step away sometimes? Answer: I shouldn’t. Neither should you.
I did an interview for a podcast earlier this week and I was talking about the #momlife. Something I was explaining involved me talking about how I need to be separate from my kids sometimes. Immediately, I apologized. It was simply automatic to apologize for that. I’ve been thinking about that moment ever since then. We live in a climate that shames moms for everything under the sun and we are almost ready for it before it has even happened and subsequently overly apologetic.!
There are running jokes about Moms who hide in the bathroom to eat a snack or even sit in a dark laundry room to take a breather. Except, it’s not a joke. It’s totally real life. I don’t know about you, but I hide at least once a day. One of my kids is six, which equals never ending chatter/questions, and apparently, constant starvation. But really, the kid is always hungry and wants some of whatever I’m having (which started sometime around birth). Obviously, I can’t hide from Charlie unless she is asleep or happily contained in her exersaucer… (thank you- whoever invented those…) Nevertheless, I find time to get my breaks in. I’m a happier person, a more engaged wife, and a much better mother when I have time and space to breathe (or eat..ha!).
The key to an effective “mom break” is what you do with your time. Whether it’s meditating, reading, checking Instagram, or eating. As long as you are taking that mental hiatus, even for a few minutes, it helps! I struggle with not eating all day because I don’t set aside the time. This usually ends in me binging on candy or ice cream while I’m hiding somewhere, like I mentioned.
Whatever you do with your break, just make it about YOU. Your family will thank you for taking care of yourself!
ShannanJune 20, 2016 at 1:45 pm
Misoun seriously so amazing!!!
katiemcrenshawJuly 10, 2016 at 8:12 am
Thank you, Shannan!
Mama CurtissJuly 22, 2016 at 12:01 pm
The mom guilt is serious. As a new SAHM to a 8 month-old, I never understood the count down until bed time until the past few weeks since I’ve resigned from my job. I also find myself staying up a little later just for a few minutes to myself. We shouldn’t feel guilty for it but I, too, find myself apologizing before my husband can respond. I love my baby girl but we deserve that moment when we need it. Even if its just making ourselves something for breakfast as I’m guilty of just snacking on a granola bar until dinner.
I look forward to reading more of your blog.
katiemcrenshawJuly 22, 2016 at 6:06 pm
Totally agree, mama! Thank you for reading!